Father Hood

I have being wondering why many claim to have fathers they don't trust.

As I discussed and poured out my mind recently I discovered many use men they don't and can't trust as their spiritual Father.

Then it hit me! If the one person you see as your father can't command respect in you, won't this also reflect on your relationship with your Heavenly Father. The closer I thought the more I realized it to be true. How can you claim to have a father whom you cannot trust, whom you are suspicious of. How can you make such your father who can't command respect in you? He has not thoroughly been formed. Our development as Christians is greatly influenced by our Fathers. Paul said though you have many instructors but you have just one father.

Fatherhood is a place of passion and harmony. I remember my search for a father....

When I was in school I wasn't one of the elite spiritual brothers, so all of a sudden when people saw me ministering in God's power, opposition arose everywhere. I was questioned who is your Father? Who mentored you? Because I didn't really have a physical father or mentor doors where closed against me. I was so sad, the persecution was so much, everywhere I went I was accused of having pride. This made me to become sad and moody. All I wanted was to be accepted, because my heart was always filled with love, I love carrying people along. Well I might have also instigated the persecution because I knew all those who claimed I am fatherless wanted to father me. But I didn't want them.

My search for a father led me to harvest house, but it wasn't for long, then winners’ chapel, after some months I realized I didn't flow with the style of worship. By this time I had become weary, the persecution of not having a father had gotten too much so that I found a post graduate student invited him to minister in one of our meetings and because he was an alumni of my fellowship, it looked acceptable to man. Although the relationship was imbalanced because we only discussed what I felt he was comfortable with. We rarely discussed about the supernatural. He was a good big brother but I wouldn't really call him a father. My search for fatherhood also didn't stop. Even though at first it was meant to weigh me down I had sincerely sensed that I really needed a Father, so when I had to leave school and spend an extra year to get my degree, I moved into town. Because of the pain and hollow of my heart, my heart cried for Fathering.

I became involved with a church I had eyed. And then after so many months; by then I was confused, ministry was a distant call, I just needed clarity. I sought the Pastor of this Local Assembly Just to pour out my heart and ask for direction, this became a great decision because for the first time I expressed myself to man without fear of hurting his ego. I told him who I was, where I had come from and what brought me here. He listened with rapt attention; he spoke a little and then encouraged me. I was so blessed! This was the beginning of a spiritual Fathering. As I was leaving his office that day he asked me if I would love to come every week to see him, so we made it a date every Wednesdays, between the hours of 1-4pm I was in my pastor’s office.

I can't really say all that transpired but I can say this I got almost all my wisdom from him. He gave me an insatiable thirst for the scriptures, he encouraged me, and he even gave me money and bought things for me. Though I was going to his office on wed. Some people in church started calling me Revs Son. This is a Father and that is Fatherhood.

To be sincere he took care of all my needs, spiritual, emotional and financial. He was the reason I went to church. Though I met other believers Rev was my major motivation and excitement for being in church. His teachings, ooooooh his teachings, the depth! He was such a Father as none! He was more real to me. Some people said Rev is tough ooo, I never saw it. I just wanted his leading, his direction, for I was once lost. I really needed him, my life depended on him. Because of the troubles I had faced. So each day when I went to see him I went with the mind of having my problems solved. That is a Father.

He was not just a spiritual father; He was also a physical father. He understood everything, even my emotions, he treated everything. I didn't think about his words I took them as final, because I could trust him. I trusted his leading and guidance because of the time we had spent together; I knew his labors over me. As at when I was at the church I never did anything without him. Everything, I told him. There was no point hiding things from someone who's got your whole life figured out.

Who is your Father or rather may I ask are you a Father?

I have another father; Rev Isaac Adewale like Rev Tunde Amosun. People say Daddy is hard actually I've witnessed it, he is. But still I can refer to him as my Father, because I understand the place of a Father. It is to guide and to direct. I have come to learn how to utilize Fathers. Daddy gave me the needed push and motivation I needed for ministry, he played a vital role in my decision to embrace ministry full time, his love and counsel and fatherly admonition, his covering and his making me to share out of his life and family. I love his ministries and his anointing, if God has lead him to where he is, then I trust God, daddy can lead me too. I love my Fathers. They are a blessing to me. I do whatever they say I never disobey them; I have learnt how to submit totally to fathering. My Fathers have helped me a lot they have prevented me from sorrow. Even when it seems they have asked me to make a decision based on their own personal view it ends up working for me. Do you know why the relationships with my fathers work, it's because I trust them and I know they won't lead me astray.

I ask this question and I pose it to you. How can you have a Father that you can't trust? Are u sure he is really your Father or Just an Instructor.

Who is an Instructor? An instructor his one who guides but you are not under any obligation to follow is guidance. You only have to sit and listen to him.

It puzzles me how you can sit under the ministry of someone you can't trust your life with, then why are you there? Also know that your development as a Christian is determined by your father’s growth. A servant cannot grow beyond the master. As long as you don't trust your so called father then you can't also be trusted because you are a reflection of who he is.

Be careful who you make your father. Fatherhood is very significant in a person's development. Also know that your relationship with your father also mirrors your relationship with God. If you don't trust your father, it won't surprise me if you don't trust God. Check your lives have you made instructors your fathers? Instructors, no matter how deep they are can never become a father; because they lack something essential and that's fathering. A father sows in you and invests in you, a father is patient for the harvest, a father is ready to take blame for you, a father loves to associate with you, a father gives and does not take.

Who is a Father? A Father is a Leader; your leader, your personal guide in life, your eyes, your direction.