WHEN THE SPARKS STOPS FLYING!

For quite some time now I've been silent not blogged been more into micro blogging. But it's not that I don't have what to say, it's Just that I didn't have the right frame to put it, I've being reading a lot of books of late just to improve myself and I've garnered many a wisdom from such, Hopefully my piece would bring light into someone's tunnel.

What do you do?

What is your response when the sparks stops flying?

Whether it's in marriage or a casual friendship at some point the sparks stop flying and the relationship seems to wane at that point you claim that the sparks have ended. And then you to try to move on, or u never even realised u moved on, all of a sudden reality downs on you that there has being distance and you are faced with the reality of your preoccupation. It takes extra work to re-establish such a relationship.

In Marriage this stage is normal, the romance wears off and the husband begins to wonder how can I cope without the spark. I say to you, Reinvent the spark. Now I have a crazy cure and it's based on my own personal experience.At a point in time during my undergraduate years I used to have many female admirers, at first I would be put of, Later maybe after a year or two I start to like this people, by then they've out gone their crush, Nothing happens, but then I always wondered why this always happens? I can remember about six clear instances.

Naturally we would miss anyone we communicate with when such a communication stops, the only way we can reconnect is to revive communication. Being the kinda person I am, I never reconnect I Just move on. But on one or two occasions I did reconnect and I almost succeeded in making things mutual.

So what do we do when the sparks stop Flying? Ans we reinvent the spark, Now that I've had so many similar experiences I had learnt how to rekindle a once dying Fire. It takes time, Effort and Sacrifice. For a married couple it is worth it. The amount of time you put to make a relationship works suggest how much you care about that relationship and the person you are in it with.

We have so many Levels of communication. Do not think doing the same thing you did initially will reignite the spark, It might not be so! It always isn't. Most times re-igniting the spark occurs when u start taking what u took for granted seriously.

Re-igniting the spark could both be Romantic and Non- romantic. A proper mix of these, produces the best result.

All I've said is invest in every relationship you find yourself and don't take anyone for granted. Be sincere how far u can go so the other person doesn't expect too much.

Recently I reinvented the sparks in many friendship, I love to have my friends satisfied about the role they play in my Life. I love to socialise that's why I have so many close friends, 80% of my active friends are close friends, even distant friends. I've cried, through loss of some relationship, I've tried to give up on so many relationships, But I haven't succeeded, cos I'm always thinking about re-igniting the sparks. It's nau embedded within.

View every man as very important unaware you entertain angels